In crucial conversations, we often become our own worst critics, caught between the voice that speaks out loud and another that judges us internally. This internal conflict can derail us in how we communicate. However, effective strategies exist to manage it. Emmy-winning broadcast journalist and communication thought leader Karin Reed highlights the critical role of being fully present during communication, especially in high-stakes situations. She discusses the complexities of internal and external distractions that can lead to what she calls “brain cramps.”
Citing Rick Perry’s unforgettable debate lapse and Michael Bay’s stage mishap at CES as examples, Karin explains how an overpowering inner critic can disrupt our flow of thoughts. A solution to this is a twofold approach: thorough preparation and the clever use of “presentation helpers” to maintain focus. Beyond the mechanics of speech, she advocates for the power of active listening. She introduces listeners to author Robert Bolton’s concept of listening skills clusters–a method that enhances our engagement with the speaker and solidifies our presence, turning communication into a bridge rather than a barrier.
Listeners are invited to participate in a challenge Karin calls “Be Present Bingo,” a fun and meaningful exercise aimed to help you improve your ability to stay present, available for download here.
If you’re looking to elevate your communication skills, tune in to this episode of Speaker Dynamics: Own The Room that offers actionable strategies to help you practice active listening and to stay present in every interaction.
